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Dream Catcher Failure Was Never An Option

Dream Catcher Failure Was Never An Option

Have you ever wondered if someone you met or saw who appeared to be challenged had any thoughts of unfulfilled dreams? If they thought like “normal” people or if they were a drain on society and their families. Have you ever wondered how a family could embrace and love someone who is “different” Have you ever wondered what that family felt, how they coped or how they managed their lives around someone who is challenged?

Do you take the time to treat someone who is different with the same respect that you would want to be treated with? Have you ever considered that they have feelings, they love, hurt and feel pain and loss like the rest of us? Have you ever stopped to listen to what they have to say or are you to busy to take that extra moment in order for them to articulate their thoughts out loud because it takes them longer? Have you ever taken the time to pause to listen to their opinions even thought it takes them longer to be understood?

Have you ever looked into their eyes and seen the large capacity of love and total acceptance they have for themselves and those they love? Have you ever taken advantage of someone who is challenged simply because they are an easy target? Do you make fun of them behind their backs with remarks like “riding the short bus?”

Have you forgotten that in some way we are all challenged? We all have things about us that make us not only different but unique. Yes, even the geniuses of this world don’t fit. The reason they think on a higher plane than most of us.

When Stan was born in 1952 children like him were put away in back rooms and asylums in order to shield them from the prying eyes of the public. That was not the real reason. The reason was the families were ashamed of these children who were not “perfect.” They were an embarrassment and a drag on the family. Most of these children died behind locked doors, had experiments used on them, were abused mentally, physical, sexually and emotionally all in the name of science. Any chance they had of being productive in society was destroyed by doctors, caretakers and even families.

Stan however, was one of the fortunate ones. His parents refused to allow him to be put away “for the good of the rest of the family.” He was taken home and taught how to be a productive person within the family unit and in society.
However, society was not always kind or considerate to him. He had his trials and tribulations. He was taken advantage of ridiculed and cruelly teased. But through it all he learned to be the wonderful productive man he is today.

He learned to control the anger that welled upside of him when people would tease him cruelly, he learned how to be passed over in jobs, how to accept demotions when it suited his employer because they could and he wouldn’t fight back. He learned how to work at jobs that most of us wouldn’t because he wanted to work so bad. He learned that his greatest asset was his family who always had his back.

He learned that women used him not for friendship but for the money he had. He learned that trust is a very fragile thing that is often times broken because of greed and lies. He learned to hide his pain and hurt behind his mantra “It’ll be alright.”

He can never marry or have children, something he has always wanted. He can never be totally independent because of the evil in the world and he has no defenses to fight it off.

However, he is living his dream, he is loved, he works and makes his own money. He travels by air to Florida and he is surrounded by those who guard him with the blanket of love and care. He has dreams and goals some of those he will accomplish and some he won’t – but he is still successful simply because he works toward those goals and dreams.

Dream Catcher, Failure Was Never an Option is his story. It is the story of one’s man’s success at a time when failure was the only option given to his parents. Sadly even though we have fooled ourselves into believing that we have put the ugly past behind us and that our special people are in a different place they aren’t.

They are still ridiculed, abused, teased, ignored and treated like they are a piece of furniture. Parents have taught their children to bully this wonderful people, to abuse them and to see just how miserable they can make the life of these unique and wonderful individuals. They are treated with disdain,and rudeness in the work place and in public.

We give lip service to how wonderful we treat them, but it is a lie. They are expected to perform at the same level as “normal” children in schools, act and behave like “normal” children at all times, and when they don’t they are thrown in handcuffs and hauled off to jails and juvenile halls and hosptials.

Not all handicaps are visual, many are emotional and mental. It is time to take these children out of the dark, put them in the light and allow them to grow at their rate. With love, the correct type of discipline (there is no one size fits all) and most of all acceptance. Unconditional acceptance! They didn’t ask to be born different, they didn’t ask to be brought into a world who refuses to accept anything they can’t explain away. They have just learned to play the hand they have been dealt. Help them to be a winner. Give them a hand up and a shoulder to lean on. Be their friend, a true friend who always has their back.

September 18, 2011 Posted by | yvonne mason | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments


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