Award Winning Best Selling Florida Author Yvonne Mason

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Fly High Remonda- A Story of Loss and Appreciation

On July 2, 2015 we lost our granddaughter Remonda to an asthma attack. She was only thirteen years old. Every year 625,000 children under fifteen years old die from Asthma. Please feel free to share this link for many reasons – She left a footprint that none of us can ever fill. Fly High Remonda

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November 3, 2015 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Grief!!!!!!!!!!

Pennies From Heaven

Pennies From Heaven

Grief! Such a harsh word even though it is only five small letters. Grief that thing that is followed by loss another harsh word even though it is only four little letters. Loss = Grief. It doesn’t matter if it is a person, place or thing. It could be a lost job, a lost home, a lost photo a lost loved one. The feeling of grief is there. It is a natural emotion – the key is to understand that it will pass. Once the shock of the loss wears off the grief will run its natural course, it we let it happen.
The sad thing is that most people allow the grief to control them instead of them controlling the grief. Marriages can be torn apart, families ripped to shreds, friendships blown to bits. Once this happens it cannot be undone. Once the harsh words are spoken, the ill feelings shown and the ugly side of death brought to the surface, it can never be undone.
Pennies from Heaven are stories by people who have suffered loss, then grieved or not. It is not a how too book, there is no such thing. It is just a book about real people written by real people. Grief comes in all shapes, forms and sizes, it can happen months even years down the road. It makes humble men, arrogant. It makes proud men humble. It makes monsters out of most of us.
It does not have to be that way. Once we understand that we do not have all the answers and never will and that there is a higher power who has all the answers and always will we can begin to come to terms with loss. Death is part of the circle of life. It is a journey into the unknown that is why we fear it.
We do not understand is that person is still with us, in our hearts and memories. When we act out and create discontent and hate we dishonor that loved one’s life. We disrespect the fact that they lived.
Instead of finding things to fight about, to spread hate and discontent about we should come together, seek to think about how others might be feeling. We should find comfort with others who are grieving. Sadly as humans we get so locked up in ourself we cannot see what is right before us. The mind plays tricks on us. Grief takes over and never leaves. Pennies from Heaven helps others to understand that grief =loss, but with time the loss is less. Not that we ever get over it. That does not happen. But if we keep a healthy mindset we can move forward, for if we don’t we cheat the life of the one we have lost.
Everyone grieves differently. But everyone does grieve. Pennies From Heaven is a wonderful gift for those you know who are grieving, a great read for one who is grieving.It is not a how to book, it is just a book to help you better understand there is no time line nor a list of directions for grief.

October 10, 2015 Posted by | Books | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

We Never Know Our Impact on People

Today I was in Cocoa, Florida doing a radio interview on Viewpoint with Seeta. http://www.seetamediainc.com/ The show was an hour long and we talked about many topics. We discussed my books and my background. Then we got down to the heart of the matter. We discussed grief, dealing with grief and loss and the new normal after a death. For those of you who don’t know I lost my 13 year old granddaughter on July 2, 1015 and six weeks later on August 10th I lost my father. It was a tsunami of loss and grief in a short time span. There was not time to grieve for the baby before we were traveling back to Atlanta to bury my father. That is the back story. I had previously written a book along with several other authors titled Pennies From Heaven. This little book holds stories from people talking about how they dealt or did not deal with loss. It is not a how to book, but a book to help someone cope and move forward.

Pennies From Heaven

Pennies From Heaven

When I got home I found this note on my facebook page, from Seeta the host of the show “Thank you for your continued support of our radio show Yvonne Mason.I wanted to let you know someone whose son passed away six months ago wanted me to let you know you helped her to let go of bottled up grief today.God truly sends angels when we need it♡”

Talk about humbled. I was truly humbled. After the show Seeta and I were talking and we both said, that is doesn’t matter how rich or poor one is, we all will be in the same place on day, that is death’s door. The important thing is the DASH between our birth and death dates. What we do to give back, how we behave, how we love and how we help others. That is what we will be remembered for- not how rich we were, not how much money we gave
away, not how poor we were not the clothes we wore or the car we drove, But the mettle of our character. I for one do not want to be weighed and found wanting. I wanted to be remembered for one thing, “She made a difference.”
I do not know the name of the lady that contacted Seeta, but I know that she was touched by the show. My prayer for her is that now she finds the peace that passes all understanding and that now she can celebrate her son’s life, to be grateful for the time she had with him, not bitter for the loss she suffered. That she will honor his life not mourn his death. Because I am sure he made a difference.

September 28, 2015 Posted by | yvonne mason | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Dealing with Grief

Pennies From Heavan

Pennies From Heaven

 

While my newest little jewel is not yet out (soon very soon) I wanted to once again let the public know it is on its way. As I have lived quite a long time. (No, I am not in my 20’s, 40’s or even 50’s) I have experienced death on many levels since I was a small child. My four siblings and I were not spared the experience. We were not shielded from death or funerals. We were brought up in the old South where death and grief were accepted as part of living and giving birth. I thank my parents for that. As children we were expected to attend funeral services, to sit with the family during the wake to accept condolences from others with grace, dignity and good manners. We were allowed to grieve to be hurt but we were not allowed to misbehave. I too raised my children in the same manner.

Now many many years later, I have experienced the deaths of many many family members and friends, some who were taken way too soon. However, that timetable is not always our timetable. It  is one of those things which is totally beyond our control.

Pennies From Heaven was a need to express grief – a need to outwardly let the world know that those who have died mattered. It is not just my story- it a story from many contributors. Contributors who have lost children, grandparents, parents, even beloved pets. The reason for this book was twofold, the first to help those who were grieving who had never had the opportunity to express that grief to do so. The second reason was to be able to offer comfort and strength to someone else who has lost someone and wondered if they were grieving “correctly”.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve, we all grieve in a different way and at different times. While there are several stages of grief- no one of us goes through them at the same time or the same way. We never “get over” the loss. The hole is always there, the pain is always there. However, if we do grieve- we will heal, the pain will diminish- even though we will always feel the loss the hole in our hearts.

Pennies from Heaven doesn’t tell anyone what to do- when to do it or how to do it. It is just stories of loss and grief- Many stories talk about the anger, guilt, denial,  shock  and acceptance of the death of a loved one. You will also find that one or two even talk about the comfort they found when they saw their loved one just for a brief moment. Yes, I believe we are visited by those who have left us.

If we stay stuck in one of the stages of grief, we not only cease to live- (sure we function on a day to day basis but we don’t live) we cheat those who we love who have left us. We cheat their memory. We rob ourselves of the life we enjoyed with them. We become worse than being dead-

If they could tell us one thing they would tell us what my sister told me before she died “Live your life.”  She meant it. She loved life. She loved her family. She didn’t want to die. She fought it for almost two years. But she knew what we all know- death comes to all of us. What we have this moment in time is all we are promised. When we waste it we can never get it back.

If you are grieving- you need to read this book. Immerse yourself in the stories that are shared. Stories that the contributors reached down deep into the deepest darkest parts of their hearts to write so that others could find comfort.

No, not all the stories are faith based. We do not cram “religion” down the throats of our readers. Each story is unique to the writer. The only guideline that I asked for was for them to be honest with themselves. They did not disappoint.

This book is currently at the editors and will soon be released. Add it to your to read list. You will not be sorry. Also add it to your gift list, that person will thank you.

June 5, 2013 Posted by | New Releases | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

On Death and Grief

Pennies From Heavan

Pennies From Heaven

Death comes to all of us sooner or later. It is as much a part of life as living. Because death is an unknown we do not know how to handle it when we lose someone we love. We have a hole that will not close. We feel a loss that will not leave. We feel anger, hurt, sadness, denial and many other emotions. We are not taught about death and grief because as human beings we live in denial. If we don’t think about it – then it will not happen. Or it happens to others not us.

I have been dealing with death since I was a child. People I loved have been dying ever since I can remember. Thankfully I had parents that taught me not only about death but about grief. They were wise enough to teach me that every one grieves differently- everyone has to find their own level of acceptance. (Some never do) –

Pennies from Heaven is about death and grief. It is not the usual how to book- Those are a waste of time. Pennies from Heaven is stories gathered far and wide written by others who have been there. Some who fell into the abyss and had to find their way out. It is not a book about making people “get over it”. One never gets over a death- one only learns how to move forward with the hole in their heart.

The beauty of this book is this- not only is it filled with stories of death and grief it is filled with stories of those who have gone on – being near those left behind. There are stories of beloved pets who have crossed over to Rainbow Bridge- Yes, I included those because they are a part of our lives- we love them and when we lose them it is painful- It does leave a hole in our hearts.

I highly recommend this book- It is not morbid nor is it hand slapping funny. It is a mixture of emotions much like we feel when we grieve. If this little book helps just one person learn to move forward while holding on to those memories which are so dear it will have been worth it. I know it has already helped the story tellers to heal.

Pennies From Heaven will be released in the next two months. I will post as soon as it hits the market.

May 2, 2013 Posted by | Books | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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